“At the moral core of all religions lies a simple shared imperative, often referred to as ‘the Golden Rule’. The exact wording of this differs from one religion to another, but the essential meaning is the same, and is best summed up in Western societies by the familiar command: ‘Never do to others what you wouldn’t want them to do to you.” ~ 50 ideas you really need to know / religion by Peter Standford
The first formulator of ‘the golden rule’ was Confucius in the sixth century (530 BCE). It sprang from his core belief that holiness was inseparable from altruism.
“Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself.”Confucius 551-479 BCE
Later it would be Buddha (480 BCE), the Torah (30 CE), the Holy Gospels (60 CE) and Muhammad (632 CE). The list is truly endless. In the end what it amounts to is consideration, as Confucius said. Consideration of each other. I believe that even were it not written the rule would still exist in the human heart.
Sometimes we forget. We’re caught in a circle wherein someone hurts one person and in turn they hurt another. We begin to build within us seeds of distrust; the idea that expecting less out of our fellow man is better; better to be surprised than let down. Though when kindness comes to us, we lose ourselves in this negative idea. We perceive kindness as a trick; a person trying to play us for fools. Kindness and Consideration become unbelievable aspects; only expected by our closest friends and family. Therefore ‘the golden rule’ becomes ‘unbelievable’.
I’ve never had difficulty admitting when I am wrong. I oftentimes would surprise my Mother by walking into her room as a child and apologizing for things she had no idea that I had done. To admit my wrongs was to acknowledge the wrongness. I believe that you cannot ask for forgiveness without first acknowledging a wrongdoing and by the acknowledgment you have absolution. To place blame upon a negative spirit and or another human being is to place a wrong on top of another wrong and thus forgiveness cannot be given and absolution cannot be granted. Which, in short, is why I admit when I am wrong.
“When I’m wrong, I say I’m wrong.” ~ Jack Houseman – Dirty Dancing
To admit when you are wrong is to be considerate.
Yesterday I had made a minor mistake and apologized to another person. This person in turn, having no belief in my apology, continued to harass me in a most undignified way. This happens to me more than you realize, even with my family. The idea that it is unbelievable for a person to have consideration for a strangers feelings or the idea of a person being incapable of admitting a wrongdoing so easily has given me an eternity of grief. Every so often I will receive an abundance of hateful emails from people that I will reply to with sincerity only to eventually have to remove them altogether because they cannot possibly fathom these ideas.
How much more time does it take to be considerate than not? How much do you really lose by expecting more? What does it hurt to tell someone how you feel; does it really make you less of a person to say, “You hurt my feelings?” Do you think so less of someone that you cannot possibly believe they would say, “I’m sorry?” Is it too much to ask to let go and forgive? Or too much to ask for forgiveness? Is it really unbelievable to hear, “I’m really sorry I did that. I’ll fix it.” Is it too much to ask ourselves to believe that maybe it’s possible? Does it really take so much time out of our day to think of someone else before ourselves? Do we really think that doing small things for people like getting them a glass of water when they’re thirsty or calling them when they feel lonely; aren’t worth as much as say… donating thousands of dollars to orphanages? What happened to goodness for no reason at all; selfless acts with no intention? What happened to, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” related to Life rather than just when you do something wrong or when trying to prove a point?
One of our fans on Facebook said a nice giveaway game would be if everyone went and said something good they’ve done for someone else that day. At first I thought this was a great amazing idea but something kept nagging me about it. Yesterday, when all this was happening, I figured it out. I realized that by having a giveaway game in this manner it would mean the intention of being kind would become polluted. The reward of a freebie would replace the eternal reward of a Thank You from another person. So instead I just ask that you do something good because you are a good person. Go do something good because in our hearts we know that by being good to others means others will also be good to us and perhaps someday the cycle we’re caught in would come to a halt… for most of us at least. Do something good because there are so many people out there in the world that need goodness right now; even the small things. And I assure you that the reward for having simply been a good person is worth more than I (or any other blogger) could give you.
“The best portion of a good man’s life – his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.” ~ William Wordsworth