For those of you that don’t know, we recently moved at the beginning of the year and had to find a new Pediatrician. There was one locally that had all these fun things like cars, riding mobiles and even a playhouse in the waiting room, so I naturally picked that one thinking it would be awesome for kids! Judah has had the same Pediatrician since he was born so I was a little worried about how it would go. I originally just set up a Meet & Greet appointment, so we could meet the doctor and Judah could check out the place. Unfortunately, it became a very stressful situation for my husband and I and we both left very disgruntled.
The initial reason is because the doctor came in without any knowledge of why she was there in the first place. She didn’t smile, she wasn’t conversational, she just came in with a strict face. Shortly into this “Meet & Greet” she begins to ask Judah questions like “How old are you?” “What is this color?” “What is your name?” and of course, he looks at her like she’s crazy because he’s playing with a truck and she hadn’t even bothered to say Hello. We explained he wasn’t going to answer her because he had no idea who she was, so she asked if he knew his colors and we said yes, to which she took as another reason to barrage him with a list of questions about colors. All this time, she isn’t smiling, she is completely unfriendly and is just slamming him with questions. Afterward she tells us she wants to run a Lead Poisoning test, right then and there which of course shocked us to death. We immediately said no.
She then proceeded to say she wanted his blood drawn for a Vitamin D test because he doesn’t drink Milk and I supplement with cheese, yogurt, carrots, various greens, etc. and he has the daily allotments of Calcium and Vitamin D. Again, I said no, we would NOT have his blood drawn to a very smirked face doctor who wrote on her little pad and shortly after left the room and we went home.
That was what I call – Round 1.
We discussed getting a new doctor but hadn’t gotten around to it. Judah started experiencing more allergy issues and so he went back on Claritin and we sought out an Allergist. I should state that a few months ago he was rushed to the ER for a mild allergic reaction to what we assume was Cashews, so when we set up the appointment with the Allergist for outside allergy testing, we added a test for Tree Nuts. Judah did very well at his last allergy testing for 5 different indoor allergies. We played and sang songs in the waiting area, so we knew it wouldn’t be too bad; just a little itching.
Then Round 2 with the Pediatrician happened. She called me, very curt and unhappy with the fact that I set up an appointment with an Allergist (he had to contact her for paperwork). She explained that there are many things that they can do in their office without having to go to an Allergist, such as trying new medications. She goes onto a list of half a dozen medications and I stop her and explain that Judah wasn’t going to be tested out on various handfuls of medications just to see if something worked right. I explained, very nicely, that Claritin works fine and that we just wanted to know what the allergy actually was. With a very well heard Huff on the phone she explains that they can draw blood and test for any allergies I wanted and I said that the last time we were in the office we explained how we are against the Blood Testing. We’d already went through the allergy test once and he was fine, we’d rather do that. This just really got her mad and finally I just was fed up. I said that there is NO WAY my husband and I were going to hold our son down on a table kicking and screaming so they can see if they can shove a needle in his arm to draw blood and IF they didn’t get it right to allow them to continually try until they get it right. NO, I was not going to do that, I would rather him endure a little itching and play games on the floor until the test was done. I think NOT.
The Pediatrician actually said, “FINE”. I’ve never heard a doctor so rude, so pushy, so against Parents making choices for their children. I was so mad and upset after the phone call that I swore I would never walk into that doctors office again.
My husband and I study in detail every test, every booster, every shot, every medication; absolutely everything before making any choices with our children. We do what we do for our children, not for the doctor. Our choices are well thought out, well researched and our past doctors had really appreciated everything we did. And we know what is ultimately best for them for their well-care. We have incredible insurance (that does not require referrals) and are able to afford anything they need, but we don’t do unnecessary things. I know to some people it might be easier to have a child’s blood drawn instead of an allergy test, but this is our son and our rights as parents and choice makers should be respected.
I hope there is not a Round 3 with this Pediatrician. I know in some ways my husband and I are difficult to deal with because we actually say No to doctors and we actually like to research things before we allow medications, shots or otherwise; but it’s our right as parents to do so and I think I will be finding someone that has more respect for involved parents than someone I have to fight with about sticking needles in my son.
Have you ever had problems with your Pediatrician?