I recently had the privilege of reading two fabulous books the first is The Best Advice I Ever Got on Marriage and the second is The Best Advice I Ever Got on Parenting. I don’t know which I liked better. They were both very moving for me and really made me stop and examine how I am as a wife and mother. I definitely took some notes on things that I need to stop and think about in the moment, things that I need to change, and things to remember in the future when these situations arise.
The Best Advice I Ever Got on Marriage and The Best Advice I Ever Got on Parenting (October 2012, Worthy Publishing) are two make-you-think, laugh-out-loud story collections from some of today’s most well-known moms, dads, husbands and wives. Sometimes funny, sometimes surprising, and always heartwarming, these two books are a breath of fresh air to anyone who’s ever thought, “I wonder if anyone else has ever struggled with this, too?”
Focus on the Family’s president Jim Daly, approached 20 of the biggest and brightest names in Christian media, entertainment, and publishing to share the transforming advice they received when they needed it most.
I read The Best Advice I Ever Got on Marriage first. I instantly loved the book. I liked that the book was a compilation of stories and while each story was only a few pages long they were very powerful and got the message across. There were several pieces of advice that really stuck out to me. My favorite was the man that had “HWILTBMTM?” on his calender every month. This stood for “How would I like to be married to me?” I like to think that I am a pretty good wife so I don’t think my husband’s answer would be all that bad but I now stop and think a little more before reacting and think how I would like to be treated that way. There was other great advice like Never threaten divorce, your spouse needs to know no matter what you will never threaten that. Also that adults need time outs too, before reacting and saying things you will regret, tell your spouse you need a little time and come back in an hour after you have had time to think about the situation.
This book will make a wonderful Christmas gift for any married couple whether they have been married for 1 year or 40! I plan on giving this to my cousin who is getting married soon.
After reading the first book I was looking forward to reading The Best Advice I Ever Got on Parenting. I like to think that i am a pretty good mom but I know I am not perfect. Like the other book, this too was a compilation of stories. Parents bravely shared stories of events in their life that they would probably rather forget but shared because they learned a valuable lesson from it.
One story I found particularly interesting was of the man doing research for a book and interviewed hundreds of tweens and found that many of them questioned their parents love for them. They felt when they did something wrong their parents stopped loving them. He said this was coming from children of parents you would picture as Parent of the Year, how could their child not know they were loved? This made me realize (and he said this too) that no matter what, we always have to tell our kids how much we love them, especially when they do something wrong. If we yell or discipline our child we must say things like “I love you, but I am very upset that you lied to me and you will be punished accordingly.” This way your child knows that you still love them, but what they did was wrong. This was among a lot of other good advice such as not using our “scary” voices and always lead by example. We can’t expect our children to follow rules if we do not follow them ourselves.
GENERAL EDITOR JIM DALY has received the 2008 World Children’s Center Humanitarian Award, the 2009 Children’s Hunger Fund Children’s Champion Award and the 2010 HomeWord Family Ministry Award. He has appeared on such television programs as Larry King Live, America Live with Megyn Kelly and ABC World News Tonight, been featured in Newsweek and USA Today and is a regular panelist for The Washington Post/Newsweek blog “On Faith” alongside leading academics and theologians. He has been married to his wife, Jean, since 1986.
I really believe that both of these books will make wonderful gifts this year. I have a few people in mind for both books. I really enjoyed reading them and they made me want to try harder as a wife and mother. Life is so short, I want everyone I love to enjoy it.
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