Lately I have been noticing more and more people bullying skinny people. I’m sure you’ve read (or have participated) in threads where everyone who is skinny is suspect of being unwomanly or sick; even healthy active people who work out are suspect and especially if they are Moms. Unfortunately I am one of those people and regardless of who the target is, I don’t find bullying acceptable.
Growing up I was always tall and skinny and despite what many people think, bullying is non-discriminatory. I have dealt with people making ignorant comments or being downright cruel all my life for it. The stress (and sometimes depression) of not looking like what was acceptable to my peers exasperated the issue.
In fact, even now as a blogger I have to deal with the same things. I hear many women say awful things about thinner female bloggers. It seems completely absurd since we’re all old enough to know better, but it’s there. I actually considered not doing any fashion posts at one point because there were many Moms that said they stop reading certain blogs when the photos have thinner Moms in them. In a community that was built to find acceptance in each other, it seems so contradictory.
The worst of it is that the more people nonchalantly throw about serious health concerns on typically healthy people to make themselves feel better, the more the actual diseases are downplayed and those that truly suffer from anorexia, bulimia and obesity are forgotten. We have to remind ourselves of the true face of these diseases and understand that there are uncontrollable psychological problems that they face. It’s not something to toss around lightly and it is in no way amusing.
There is a very big difference between being skinny and being anorexic; just as there is a difference between not being skinny and being obese. It does just as much psychological harm to skinny kids calling them sick, ugly, deformed or unnatural as it does calling a child that might have a bigger body size overweight, fat, or obese.
There is no acceptable form of body shaming, just as there is no acceptable form of bullying, sexism or racism. It’s wrong no matter how you swing it.
I wanted to show you my son’s favorite book. Inside it teaches (obviously) how everyone is different and that’s okay. You can wear glasses, have no hair, missing teeth, be adopted or even be small, medium, large or extra large. Everyone deserves to be loved.
Children, even teens, learn from their parents. Ask yourself, what are you teaching yours?