My toddler likes to call me “The Weird Mommy”, as opposed to my husband who is the “Regular Daddy”. Where he picked up that I’m weird is beyond me, but I’m pretty sure he has this mixed up. Despite what you might think, I am not weird.
Okay… maybe just a little weird, but certainly not exuberantly so!
Now yesterday my teen was telling me that on Fridays, every Friday, he is going to go out walking with his friends. I’m not sure who these friends are, they’re kind of mysterious people that exist solely at school and although he’s been there since August I’ve yet to meet any of them. This is all kind of odd to me as we live within walking distance from the school. You’d think someone would come over! So I told him that I would like to meet these ‘friends’ he is going to spend all his Friday’s walking around with and he can stop by after school.
I get one of those long teen Uuuhhh’s that come before some excuse and then the rapid fire reason that is meant to trip you up because they don’t think you are listening. These are usually mumbled and come in one long sentence. “UhhhokaymomsuresometimeI’lldothat!” Unfortunately for him, I’m pretty linguistic when it comes to kid languages. I smiled and told him that was great, he can stop by this Friday before his walk so I could meet his friends. This brought on a whole slew of crazy reasons why that wouldn’t work out well. None of which really work since, like I said, we are within walking distance. Stopping by to “check in”, “grab a soda”, “drop off your bag”, etc. were all reasonable. Finally I asked him if he was embarrassed by me and I wish I could have saw his face (he was doing the dishes), because it was one of those moments where you are capable of rendering complete silence from a teenager.
Then my tot said, “Mommy’s a weird Mommy!” Thanks kid.
I had to ask my husband if I was being overly ‘weird’ about it. My teen is a good kid. He’s never gotten himself into any trouble and is really adamantly against bad things some teens do. He won’t even use his locker because he shares it with a kid he says ‘smokes’. It’s not like I am checking up on him to see if he’s hanging around delinquents though, I’m pretty sure him and his little gamer geek friends are all great kids. I’m just from a time when teens had to bring their friends home to meet their parents before going off and spending hours away from home on a Friday!
My husband shrugged. He was being no help. My teen and my tot are under the impression that I am a weird embarrassing Mom. I would like to state that just because I have a pair of rainbow socks it does not make me weird and/or embarrassing! I’m a perfectly ‘regular’ Mommy.
At least I think so.
But if a kid that wears a t-shirt over his head like a ninja while washing dishes thinks I’m embarrassing, what hope do I have!
He asked me if I could just meet them at his birthday party…. in two weeks. I smiled and said, “Absolutely.. not.” I kept thinking of the fact that next year he’s going to be driving and will have means to escape, our little back-and-forth’s won’t be as fun then.
So what do you think? In this modern age is it odd to want to meet the friends? Do you meet the parents before your kid spends the night somewhere? Do you actually get out of the car and walk to the door when you drop your kid off for a play-date?
When did all these things become so old fashioned?